It’s strange though that we cling to it as an absolute certain when it comes to birth almost above anything else.
I never swerve the word, it’s very real, but I do choose to talk about how pain is subjective. Like anything...everyone will experience it differently.
I choose to talk more about how we can work with our bodies in labour and how working on our mindset beforehand can undoubtedly influence how we experience the birth and our concept of 'pain'.
I had my very own tryst with pain this weekend - not a baby...but a TOOTH. A very angry and painful tooth that just about wore off enough for me to do my courses over Saturday and Sunday, but enough to remind me of my very own terror about dentists.
After a succession of pretty awful experiences over my my nearly 38 years - almost 2 years ago I said I didn't think I'd ever be able to get in to a dental chair again.
I knew intellectually that this would be a hard thing to maintain, but the feelings were s...
Jenny & Oscar came to the October course and were an absolute dream team!
Jenny's story is the perfect example of how important it is to have the information to make informed decisions in labour and her instincts were so right...
As I write this...Jenny & Oscar are still trying some names out for size, but for now they are adjusting to their little bundle and the whirlwind that is parenthood!
So labour started for me on Monday morning when my waters broke at home and I started getting mild contractions.
I went in to the hospital where I was told to go home and phone them the next day at lunchtime with any progression. At this stage my contractions were still only every 30 mins but they asked me to come in.
When I got to the hospital I was basically tagged and put in a room and told that they were going to start with the induction process which is something that I was really against doing.
I understand where the midwives are coming from, but I did feel like I was being told I was being ind...
If I led you to believe that something was possible, if it wasn't.
My intention is always for good, but over the last few months I have felt a shift in how I feel about some stuff...in fact it's actually more like several shifts to be honest, but there’s one particular thing that has been playing on my mind.
And yesterday when I was at Suzy Ashworth's the Calm Birth Methodbook launch, I was delighted to meet (in the flesh) and chat to Anthonissa aka the Hypnobirthing Midwife.
We were talking about her exciting new venture, an online course - Align Your Baby which was launched a few days ago.
It's an amazing course which is geared towards helping women across the world get to grips with how to best align their babies...with the view that this will help lower the ever rising rate of forceps and Cesarean births.
I have to be honest when I first saw the course, I felt bitter sweet.
Bitter that there’s so much I wish I had known in the past, but all the more s...
There seems to be a unknown secret when we sign up for motherhood...a part that I never recall reading about and yet it's fundamentally the hardest part for me and for many Mama's I encounter.
There have been moments in the last week (half term) where I have literally found myself breathless looking at my boys – it’s like my heart explodes with so much love, my chest gets so full and I lose my breath!
I sometimes manage to say it out loud and they give that look that I think only your children can…the one that otherwise would make me feel like you're from another planet!
I do just love them though – so much.
These moments tend to mostly come when they are still and silent and I guess that's not dissimilar to what I remember when they were babies and we'd spend hours trying to just get a moment and put them down and then proceed to spend all of that time watching them sleep or checking they were breathing.
I know it sounds awful or maybe I just think it does, but I guess it's in those quie...