So I finally went to see Bridget Jones’ Baby this weekend and I was not disappointed until...well the birth!
And actually, not just the birth disappointed me, but it highlighted so many things that really piss me off about women having babies beyond a certain age.
I mean is there ever an age where geriatric sounds nice, but especially in reference to a pregnant goddess growing and nurturing another little human?!
I remember when a close friend of mine was having a baby and it was the first time I’d heard such a term - I seriously thought she was joking.
But to be honest it does add to collection of the many shitty words that are commonplace when discussing pregnancy and birth.
What I’ve realised over the course of teaching Hypnobirthing is you can’t teach this without becoming really bloody tuned in to birth – EVERYWHERE.
So when it came to the sudden and dramatic scenes of Bridget’s labour starting to her lay on her back screaming – to say I was disappointed would be a bloody understatement.
It was the classic punching the partner in the nose, to the biting of the arm – to then even more shockingly the ‘fathers’ waiting outside the room after the OB (Emma Thompson) suggested that being down that end wouldn’t be anything less than traumatic and said her partner described it like
‘Watching his favourite pub burn down!’
I mean for fucks sake...REALLY?
Of course this isn’t the first time I’ve seen these typical scenes of childbirth, but I guess I just thought it was a great opportunity to depict birth in more of a positive light, especially when there are more and more celebrities shouting about their positive birth experiences.
Seeing the earlier scenes of them attending an antenatal course which made reference to positive touch and endorphins (I think) I had high hopes that maybe a BIG movie like this might jump on the positive birth train and show something gentler.
It’s no wonder that we are stuck in this vision of purple faced, screaming women with their feet in stirrups when that is what is consistently being shown and how she ended up!
So whilst I loved the movie – frankly the birth didn’t leave me on a high and I know the ‘comedy’ scenes of a partner getting a broken nose and a chunk bitten out of their arm maybe makes better viewing for some – but there were plenty of comedy scenes in my calm and gentle birth and this is really about a universal change in perception.
Get on it HOLLYWOOD – start showing women and men that birth can be beautiful and empowering!
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